It's in. Took too many hours, but it's in. Overall, I had the assembly lined up with two 3/8" bolts going through the bellhousing bottom holes that I could tighten by nuts inside the bellhousing. I could then line up easier that way and use the cherry picker to lift the back end. I did this no less than 4 times and was never able to close the last 1/4" to 1/2" gap between the bellhousing and the tranny without that feeling when tightening the bolts "somethings not right here". Today, once again managed to get it to the same spot, but this time I had a single top bolt in. Again, the tranny was about 1/4" from the bellhousing, but the top was about 1/2" away and I couldn't get the top any closer without that bad feeling again. The top bolt was just way too hard to tighten. Finally decided to back all the bolts off to where they were easy to loosen/tighten. The tranny moved back about 1/4". Then I decided to see if the engine moving would straighten everything out. Clearly the problem was getting into that stinkn' pilot bearing. The starter torqued and POP. That did it and the tranny was mated to the bellhousing. All the bolts would go in by finger now.
Lessons learned after putting the assembly in 4 times:
1. use cherry picker to lift the assembly slightly behind the center of mass so that the tranny input shaft is pointing down, not straight. It's easier to lift the tranny input shaft to position it into the throwout bearing than use the lift to position it.
2. use a second chain to connect to cherry picker to chain that is across the assembly. Position the lift chain so that the shifter is clocked at about 1 oclock when looking at the bellhousing.
3. use 3/8" bolts with nuts in the bottom two holes and get the assembly within 1/4"of the bellhousing when using the cherry picker to support the weight in the rear. The top of the tranny will be spaced further away from the bellhousing than the bottom, but should be around 1/2" to 5/8" away
4. disconnect power to the dizzy and turn the engine over for final alignment.
Sorry for the detail, but if I'm every stupid enough to do this again, it'd be nice to see these lessons.