Thank you for taking the time to tell this story. A broken piston ... that is brutal.
This actually touches on something I have wondered for awhile, which is "HOW do engines fail?" I've worked on hundreds of vehicles but never performance diesel work, and the answer to this question isn't as obvious as I thought it would be.
Assuming EGT's are kept under 1200F or so, can we keep dumping fuel into the engine and cranking up the boost forever? Or will the engine fail due to excessive power, even if the EGT's are in check?
Essentially, are the pistons cracking because they are melting (high EGT's)? Or are they cracking because of too big of a detonation even with low EGT's?
I hope that question made sense. Essentially, I'm trying to make sure my own setup (which is the same as yours) does not blow itself to pieces, even if I'm keeping an eye on EGT's.
I have been lucky with my hard pushed 3B so far. A few things I used/incorporated in my build and try to do on trips. The highest load on the engine is high speed driving in hot weather. High EGT's add heat to the engine. It is likely that a welded DIY log manifold with less mass adds less heat to the head as it cools quickly when it heats up compared to a cast manifold...........
When pistons/rings get really hot they expand. If ring gap is not sufficient they can expand till they touch and then crack/score the bore and you will have a tick/piston slap if more than 1 ring is broken. 1 ring can break and it will run on for quite awhile. Extra ring gap in the build is good for an engine not meant for turbo. IE hypothetical if minimum acceptible ring gap is .010 and max is .040 on a NA engine and you add a turbo instead of going for a super tight .010 gap for maximum efficiency perhaps go for .025. My 3B overheated on me and more than once prior to my owning it. It failed due to broken rings on 2 cyl and eventually one of those pinched and loss of compression.
Cerekote has many types of ceramic coatings to include lubricating piston skirt and heat reflective piston dome reflective coatings. They sell 4oz sample bottles for about $20-40. That 4oz bottle will coat about 20 pistons. You can sandblast your piston domes brush it on and bake it in your kitchen oven(when your wife is not home and your windows open/range hood on). In my side by side testing the coated piston was 20 degrees cooler after 10-15 seconds exposure to a map gas torch. A little insurance on a hill climb.
The factory metal head gasket covers most of the precups. Which will help prevent "dropping a precup" unless they are totally cracked to pieces. At one point I had a non OEM head gasket to look at and it didn't have as much steel I think the one I looked at only had steel around the edge of the bore.
If that is the case then this would in no way help prevent dropping of a precup during overheats. Perhaps some cases of dropped precups are from the use of non-factory head gaskets in addition to overheat.
Overheats can cause you to crack and drop a valve seat. This will cause loss of compression, divits in the piston, perhaps a pinched ring, and perhaps damaged bore.
Really important to top off the water and oil prior to any run longer than 20 minutes at interstate speeds.
EGT's it's hard to get a good answer on this. Too many people respond with "how they feel about it" based on when they guess it might be a problem. The most solid sounding thing I've heard is at 750C things start to melt/break/crack. I set my alarm at 720 and no more than a few seconds before I lift off the pedal.
The above has worked well so far for a bit more than 11K miles on a turbod 3B.
Some people adjust the IP timing on their NA engines after adding a turbo. I have heard if you adjust in the wrong direction you can cause a broken crank. I have not adjusted mine....If you adjust your IP timeing make sure you go the right way with it.