This is perhaps the most well done project thread I've seen in the site.
I spent a year in a job where I rebuilt auto transmissions all day every day for ten to twelve hours a day and can add a very few comments.
Auto transmissions are pretty much all alike internally. Some are clutchpack only, some combine bands and clutches to make their various shifts, but they are all fairly simple inside, except for their valve bodies. There should be no reason for anyone who could dissassemble, measure, and reassemble an engine to have any fear of approaching that job in an automatic transmission.
The industry maintains an aura of mystery and complication about these mechanisms that is simply not true. They do it in order to keep you coming in for the ridiculously high pricing.
Torque converters are indeed rebuilt. They aren't done in shop, but there are plenty of nationwide rebuilding operations that cut the weld, fix the vanes and oneway clutch, seal them and reweld them on assembly lines. A "rebuilt" torque converter can be as good as a new one.
You can pretest each clutchpack with compressed air and a rubber nozzle. After you've installed the clutches and seals and have the clearance as specified put air to the holes between rings until you hear the clutch 'thunk' in and out. During road test a pressure gauge can tell you if everything is happening with correct timing and if the pump is generating enough pressure. There's almost always a way to externally adjust the trans line pressure and that should be in the individual manuals. Some manuals don't include the info assuming a correct rebuild will result in correct pressure. (I guess, but don't know, that the specs for pressure are not often included anymore so if I were doing one today I'd try to ask someone who's raced the trans. Racers ALWAYS mess with those pressures to get firm fast engagements).
The reason for not opening the valve body is that the pistons may sieze in their bores afterwards. A used valve body has expanded and shrank as it heats and cools in use and that can cause those little pistons to wear-in unevenly. Many if not most rebuilders take the safe course of not disturbing the set of the mechanism if it was working fine. Unless the halves are perfectly torqued a slight twist can be added causing clearances to close up. There are very fine tolerances in those piston to bore fits and any change there can cause abberant transmission behaviors. Also, the valve body usually isn't the cause of a trans failure. Seldom is, actually, except in Ford C4 and C6 transmissions which used rubber check balls instead of steel ones found in all others. I think the rubber was a designed failure as those balls would melt into little piles of black goo. The trans wouldn't work even though often the clutches and band weren't badly worn. Anyway, it would have been safe to flush the valve body in a container of clean fluid, moving the shift lever and any other piece you could. The new fluid and operating pressure would take care of that clutch material at your first service.. It'd all be down in the pan.
Automatic transmissions are all about good parts and correct measurements/clearances as you've found out so well.
That thing you called a "prawn", Jim, is usually known as a "pawl", as in "parking pawl" for the park position locking. I got a kick out of your usage but then began to wonder if maybe the Japanese might actually call it a prawn! (Nope, if the manual spells it like that it's a bad translation or a typo).
Congrats on a successful job of it!! I know the feelings you had while trying it out, and the eggshell you had under your right foot until you came to believe that it really would work.