I've set up a lot of gear sets for people and have always use Nitro Gears. But I also don't follow factory guide lines as far as preloads go.
A long time ago I was chastised for saying that the preloads on front wheel bearings from the factory were low and resulted in loose bearings after some use.
IMO the same is true with the Diffs. If you follow the factory preloads, that will work great on road, but once you go off road and really require them to preform they can develop problems.
For me, a general rule is after the initial 15 minutes of variable driving on a new set of gears and you can comfortably hold your hand on the pumpkin, your preload is light.
It's the heat generated during that first 15 minutes of break in that fully seats the bearing races and pinion shims. So that pumpkin should be uncomfortably hot to hold onto.
However, after 30 minutes of cooling time and another 15 minutes of varying driving time the pumpkin should only be warn to touch.
Too many people think that after the initial 15 minute drive tome a cool pumpkin indicates a good set up. It actually indicated the opposite AFAIC.