GLTHFJ60: That part 91651‑60830, ended up being just the bolt. So the bushing they said I can't get.. His lame response was "comes with the radiator" So I calling another Toyota dealership.
Dave: Thanks for the pics. My water necks come out differently since they are the dodge ones and not the 4bt ones. The lower is perpendicular to the frame is 2.25" whereas the 4bt stock one is angled down and forward and I think is 1.75".
I was sorta against the idea on flex but now I'm sorta digging it. Very strong and will not collapse. Ended up finding it for $34 shipped so took the locally bought $54 one back

Every dollar helps.
If I can't get the dealership to help on the bushing, I will try a radiator shop and see if they have some laying around that will work.
This was the best diagram I could find:
http://www.man-a-fre.com/explodedview/coolingsystemrelatedfj60.htm but it only references the bolt (B) 91651-60830. Guess that is what I get for somehow losing it.