SO, the thrilling conclusion...
I have figured it out and everyone, it did have to do with the starter, but not necessarily what you think. After calming myself down by talking to one of my best mud bud's ToyotaMatt - he recentered my thought and I went back to where I started which was voltage flow starting at battery - then fusible link- then starter ....AND remember how voltage was going in but NOT coming out...? that was the biggest clue but we all went past that because we "thought" we had tested and the problem must be somewhere else....No it wasnt, it was merely that the previous owner had a sensor style wire tip female spade style connection (which spring style female connection had worn a bit and wasnt placing enough downward pressure on the male end to make connection) on my black/white which was not sending voltage to the ign coil. ... for some reason we went past that instead of checking that connection better (all bec the plastic housing covered the blunder).
ANYWAYS long story short i switched the tip to the correct female spade terminal and now the connection is tight and good. It was hard to notice because of the plastic housing covering the previous owners male wire end....moral to the story when doing electrical work use the correct things dont just use what you have because it ends up causing a problem thats hard to find. if your gunna do it, do it right with the correct materials...correct tip left , incorrect on right which was used. Already tossed the one off the truck so that one pictured looks fine but that slide style female metal just got worn & wasn’t making right connection).
Thank you to ALL who helped me through this and im sure ill be needing some help somewhere down the line ... and of course learning so much throughout this process of my "electrical nightmare" to this problem solving issue, I have learned plenty adn will be able to help someone else.
again thank you especiall to all but Whitey, Pb, RK, and finally ToyotaMatt especially. you guys make mud awesome
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