If you pull the engine, you should drain the oil anyway. So might as well drain it now and see what you find there. Pulling the lower oil pan after draining the oil is a 5 minute job. This should give you a much better idea what happened.
If you do have a broken con rod/piston wrist pin, there is no need to waste time and money by taking the engine to a shop to have them look at it - the bottom end will have to go straight to scrap yard. So it makes sense to diagnose it yourself.
Either way, unless you can unseize the engine somehow (doesn't seem likely at this point), it will have to come out together with the tranny because you wont be able to separate the flex plate and the torque converter with a seized engine.
As for pulling the engine on your driveway.. I suppose it depends on your level of skill and experience, but there really isnt much to it.. I've done it over 10 times and i can pull the 1FZ in about 3 hours flat at this point, on my driveway.