Ahhhh I see where the disconnect is at here.OK lemme get my head straight here. The results at either end are effectively the same thing? Would not measuring at the ECM side be indicative of the solenoid, and measuring at trans connector be indicative of ECM? I'm seeing it as reading what signal is getting through to the other side. Both bad readings would only bad wiring I'd think. Am I off?
When you're measuring at the transmission connector, you are measuring the *transmission* side of that connector, not the ECM/engine harness side. So you're still measuring the solenoid, but now via the transmission wiring harness.
When you measure *at* the ECM connector, you should be measuring the same thing - just with the engine wiring harness between your meter and the transmission wiring harness + solenoid. If you measure there first and get good readings, you know the whole chain is good. If you don't get good readings, that's when you look at which of the two links it is - either the transmission wiring harness, or the engine wiring harness.
Does that make sense? If not, I can totes draw it out on paper - this is something much easier to explain with pictures rather than words, haha.