You may have more winter, but I'm betting we have far more ice here, far fewer snow plow drivers, and far more variable weather and road conditions in the Midwest. Also from having owned 2 Subarus and my GX - all to high mileage - they have had zero driveline issues other than torn front CV boots. The "wear and tear" argument is overstated but the fuel economy argument is accurate. The fuel economy penalty is worth it for a more capable vehicle that handles our local road conditions better. Outside of snow/ice, AWD is vastly superior on the gravel roads we have lots of around here - not even close between AWD and FWD/RWD/4WD.Everyone has opinions and is entitled to them
I live in some of the ugliest winter conditions in the US and the AWD vehicles are almost universally the ones off the road in the ditch
Having the option for 4WD when needed saves huge amounts of fuel not to mention wear and tear on drive line and permits the driver to choose based on conditions
Have you personally owned an AWD vehicle before? Or is your experience related to seeing stuff in the ditch relative to having driven them? AWD helps get you going but won't stop you any better than a 4WD or FWD/RWD vehicle.