Many thanks for all the input and wisdom on this forum. We took the LX camping last weekend where it saw a couple hundred miles towing as well as some 4lo on trails and when backing onto leveling blocks. I always throw it in 4lo to creep up my driveway and park it, but when my wife jumped in Monday morning to take the camper back to our storage lot the dash was lit up like a Christmas tree and it was stuck in 4lo. Fast forward to eliminating factors like the 5 year old flipping all the levers and pushing all the buttons I found this thread and was prepared to tear into the actuator motor this weekend. I dropped the camper and spent some time driving the neighborhood and doing the typical forward/backward stuff to no avail. As a last ditch effort I decided to do a hard reset. Found some corrosion on the positive battery terminal which I cleaned up, removed both terminals, touched them together, then hooked them back up. Crossed my fingers, hopped in the drivers seat and started it up. Sure enough everything was right as rain! I shifted back and forth from 4hi to 4lo multiple times and it engaged promptly everytime.
The LX started fine Monday morning, however my guess is that I had a potentially low(ish) state of charge coupled with some corrosion on the terminal which caused actuator issues. It is likely that there is corrosion in the actuator (2010 w/ 180k miles) however it engages/disengages 4lo just fine so I don't think I'm going to dig into the actuator business at this point. I'll grab a new battery before fall and keep an eye on it, but wanted to pass along my experience to others in a similar boat. Now I can spend my Saturday doing the long overdue AHC fluid change....