Guy, I'm sorry to hear about the family tragedies with motorcycles and although I'm late to say it, I'm glad you and your cruiser are okay.
Having a lovely wife to support you through your lc addiction is a rare and precious thing indeed.
Modern vehicles have so many nannies in place that they really are much safer vehicles. That being said, it deprives most drivers of understanding vehicle dynamics. My biggest adjustment to driving my 40 was the brakes. Before I started driving my 40 as a daily driver, I was what you might call an aggressive driver. But the first time I locked up the brakes on the interstate when traffic suddenly came to a halt was an eye opener to say the least :O
I remember reading an article once comparing an old mustang to its competitors at the time. The author noted that when all of the other cars had stopped from a certain speed, the mustang was still going 35 mph! The lc's stopping ability is worse

Lcs definitely take commitment, but it's fun to always be learning. When my new body gets swapped, I'm hoping to get to learn about various off-road and winching techniques!
Speaking of which, when considering a roll cage, my recommendation is to have the roll cage "tied" or connected to the frame. This is much safer than roll cages that are merely attached to the body. In my case, my roll cage was practically the only thing holding the body together and so if I did roll, the only thing the cage would have done would have been to leave an imprint of where it crushed my skull. Also, I've read that the stock roll bar is relatively weak and shouldn't be depended upon. I've read others say that it does well enough and is better than nothing. My roll cage that was already installed when I bought my 40 is a front section welded on to the stock roll bar. Before I knew any better, this is what I was looking for because I like the look of this setup and I wanted to keep the jump seats.
Your choice in roll cage may force you to get rid of the jump seats, which are considered unsafe anyway. This may lead to the purchase of a bench seat, preferably one with head rests that folds and tumbles … it’s maddening how one thing leads to another … but I really like the jump seats … can you tell I’m neurotic?
While I’m babbling … the reason why being in 4wd may have resulted in a loss of traction is that on a part-time 4wd system like we have, the transfer case locks the front and rear driveshafts together and sends an equal amount of torque to the front and rear axles forcing them to spin at the same speed. This doesn’t cause a problem when going straight with all four tires travelling at the same speed. But when the tires begin to rotate at different speeds, which is what happens when going through a tight turn, the system depends on wheel slip to deal with the difference in speed between the front and rear axles, which is what you don’t want to happen in the scenario that you experienced. Btw, this is why we shouldn’t use 4wd on dry, high-traction surfaces—the tires can’t slip, which causes binding, which may lead to something breaking. Awd systems have differentials that allow for differences in speed. But like I said, being in 4wd could have helped you recover once the traction was lost. Can you tell I’ve had many Monster energy drinks today? I’ll try to stop babbling now.