If you're using any gaskets other than Remflex, save yourself some headache and just get a set.
REMFLEX EXHAUST GASKETS are extra thick and compressable. REMFLEX gaskets fill voids on warped header flanges and exhaust manifolds. REMFLEX gaskets are good to 3000 degrees. REMFLEX gaskets won't burn out. No retorquing required with REMFLEX GASKETS.
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For the collector, I use either Toyota OEM, or Fel-Pro 23561 / 23591, depending on what pipe size you have.
I had flange leak issues until I switched to the Remflex gasket....never had any issues with the collector flange using either OEM or Fel-Pro.