When you say, "Removed the shock top bolt, loosened the bottom shock bolt" - did you remove 4 top shock bolts (not the center one) and completely remove the bottom shock bolt? You definitely need to loosen the lower control arm nuts that they use for alignment to get enough droop. But the bottom shock bolt should obviously be completely removed. Also, there is a decent chance you will pull the CV joint out a bit if you push down a lot on the drooping LCA. You have to push up on the UCA if its in your way as well of course - both at the same time. I sat on the pry bar to free up my hands.
- if you still can't get it and have cheapo spring compressors like the harbor freight ones, you could compress the spring a little bit in place to shorten the assembly
I'm using this method that I used for my 4runner OME Install - no spring compressor - Toyota 120 Platforms Forum
Bottom bolt never got completely removed because there was still a bunch of tension on the bolt. I held the cv up via the brake rotor with a jack stand to keep it intact.