Once I get the kdss valve into the neutral position then I can measure from the sway bar mount hole on the sway bar to the sway bar link hole on the lower A arm to establish the sway bar links length...
I suspect you might be going about this the wrong way. As I mentioned the end of the cylinder acts as the left sway bar pivot. Think of it as a method to tilt the sway bar either way, in fact in 4runners the KDSS cylinders do just that, they tilt the whole thing. On our rigs we get better ground clearance by having the bar itself up against the frame and the left pivot moving up and down in space.
As long as your front suspension is even side to side, and your sway bar links are the same length (or however offset the stock ones are, for whatever reason they did that), the cylinder length should stay static.
Meaning even if both links got really long, cylinder length should be the same as if they were really short. Or the suspension set very high, same as very low.
Likewise, I think you might find some variation in the cylinder length of different vehicles, not necessarily because of lift, but possibly different cruiser leans and potentially sway bar input to combat it. That is a primary reason toyota designed in the ability to balance the system with the balance screws.. yes different heights and weights and variations from rig to rig, but open the valves, let it all settle wherever the cylinders want, then lock in that setting by closing the screws.
If you are attempting to extend the links, just do so the same length on both, and don’t worry about the cylinder length.. whatever you need to do to compress it and get the link in will still need to happen.
Apologies if my attempt to explain this just confuse things further. This is a complex system and I’ve spent a lot of time trying to understand it, but I’m not sure my ability to explain it has caught up.