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OK, my 2 cents...Timing was mentioned before in this thread. Not sure if you have checked it. If you did check initial timing, have you ever checked the total timing on this engine?
Total timing = initial + mechanical advance + any vacuum advance if the distributor has this capability.
I think it would be worth checking. For a SBC, I think you will find that most recommendations are not to exceed 36 degrees total advance. More than this and it can start to cause preignition/higher combustion temps. You should be reaching max advance at about 2500 to 3000 RPM but this will depend on the springs and weights in the dist and the vacuum advance capability of the distributor, if it has any. BTW, if the distributor is an out of the box component and has never been adjusted, it can be far from optimal.
To me, too much timing makes sense as a possible culprit because you said that in your driveway, running the engine at 3000 RPM it reaches temps of 240 even with a large external fan in front of the radiator. With the engine getting this hot under a "no-load" condition and plenty of fresh forced air, its not surprising that it runs even hotter while actually driving it down the road at the same RPMs.
Easiest way to check total timing is to use a diagnostic or adjustable timing light. With this type of light all you need is TDC marked on the balancer and the TDC pointer in the right location on the engine as your reference. Then have someone run the engine up in RPM and another person continues to dial the timing light back to TDC until you reach max advance. The setting on the light now shows the engine's total advance. A shop should also be able to do this for you as well.
In my opinion, even with your existing 4-row radiator, it should not be running this hot. Since you said its boiling over, I'm assuming that its really getting as hot as your gauge is indicating but you may also want to check the radiator cap to make sure its holding pressure to its psi rating. Stock FJ40 radiator should be using a 13psi cap.