I kinda have to agree with
@FLtrails here. I think I've probably taken the AHC system on my LX farther than just about anyone but it has not been easy and I've had to make up a lot of it along the way.
If you sensor lift it, you'll need to crank the torsion bars to keep the front pressures in spec, and add spacers and/or new springs to get the rear in spec. Then, the rear will dictate your height since you can't adjust the rear spring rates a la the torsion bars. You adjust the rear sensor until you have the rear pressures in their happy place, then adjust the front sensors to match, then crank the T-t-bars until your front pressures are in-spec.
Then you run into the lack of down travel. Any sort of significant bump will cause the front shocks to top out with a bit of a bang.
You solve that with the japan4x4 spacers, which get the shocks back into their happy place.
Then you realize the rear bushings are really not happy about being torqued sideways, and the front spacers hit the CV joint boot when drooped and turned. I solved this by ditching the bolt-in spacers and welding the extensions onto the front control arm and the bottom of the rear shocks.
Oh, and don't forget to at least bend your rear brake line brackets so you don't rip one off when off road. You'll want to get the steel braided extended lines for at least the two lines from the body to the rear axle. Changing those was an absolute nightmare.
Edit: oh yeah, with the extra droop with the japan4x4 spacers, your stock UCAs will hit the shock dust shield at full extension. After market UCAs will clear...but most likely won't have the attachment for the AHC sensor, so you'll need to cut that off the OEM UCA and weld it onto your new aftermarket ones. Or JB weld. Or something.
And, thanks to the extra down travel in the front end and the cranked AHC t-bars, you get a pretty damn severe case of toe-in torque steer if you ever have to plant the throttle pulling out into traffic (might not be a problem with the non-vvt 2UZ). I solved this by going to non-AHC t-bars, which take far less preload to handle the weight but are commensurately stiffer and harsher.
Edit: Oh yeah, also the rear sway bar will hit the shock bodies at full droop unless you add longer aftermarket endlinks. I bought the trail tailor ones, I think.
And THEN, your extra droop and travel absolutely decimate every rear link bushing, so you get to go through the whole rear axle suspension and either put in new links or replace all the ripped apart bushings. I'd recommend some metal-tech or trail tailor links with the johnny joints to avoid mangling rubber bushings on the regular.
Obviously you've got a decent wheeling rig already - I'd probably stay as close to stock as possible on your wife's rig just because it works fine the way it is. Some 33's and using AHC in high on occasion is probably the easiest route, and spend the extra time and maintenance on your main wheeling 100.
But, if you decide to mess with the AHC I'll have plenty of advice for you! I almost never use the high button on my AHC but I do love it auto-leveling it does when loaded down or when hooking up a trailer.