1) Youtube oil gurus are great for entertainment but dont offer much in the way of educating enthusiasts about what oil really works and why.
If you are not an enthusiast and want to just enjoy the motor simply follow the owners manual recommendations based on what style of driving you meet. Most probably will end up following the severe schedule at 5k/6 months and will enjoy their rig for decades even with water disguised as oil in 0w20. Oil related failures on these motors in general are a rounding error at most.
2) If you dont use your rig often dont start the vehicle, let it idle and then turn it off. Take it on a nice hour long trip with alternating engine loads. Toyota has a storage guide for dealers and their sitting new car inventory, good advice and its available on nhtsa for your vehicle.
3) If you are an enthusiast, open the overseas manual. Those oil recommendations are going to be guardrails for what works in the motor. From there look at a particular oil's approvals; different from this oil meets the following ratings. Personally i like to follow MB229.5, MB229.71/2. They are the hardest ratings to achieve, test for extended intervals, and can stand up to the most everything you throw at them. If you want to compare how ratings perform in different areas, a good resource would the Lubrizol (supplier of oil additive packages to all the majors) and see for yourself.
Relative Performance Tool for Passenger Cars and Heavy Duty Vehicles: Comparisons of specifications.
360.lubrizol.com
4) Back to the pour point testing project farm and others use. Heres what engineers and chemists who design oils and motors use to spec. The safety of using a 0w over a 5w is insignificant for most. Personally I would say below 0 dont use 10w, but the SAE proves otherwise.
5) For enthusiasts or regular folks your best oil filter is going to be a well sealing and filtering air filter. From there, due to the cannister filter not much difference in filtration exists between OE and say supertech. Just make sure the filter you are using isnt some knockoff that tears the minute you start the motor. Again, with OE usually being a dollar more then the aftermarket, just use oem.
6) mixing oils is a highly contested topic. Some say you need a new motor after doing so, others have run millions of miles on frankenbrews. Do you, but if anything try to stay on brand; ie mix M1 0w40 with 10w30. If you are fearful, just keep it for a side project or use in an OPE.