I’d personally lean toward black, but I'd also be OK leaving the cladding as is, and plain black powder coating on the ARB.
I’d lean towards the 2003+ deluxe, but we spend a fair bit of time driving through the Texas hill country, where deer strikes are fairly common. Being a LX, you're probably going to have to deal with the antenna mount interfering with the LX grill.
Then again, the ARB frame mounts seem to be somewhat sacrificial on the 100 series (unlike they were on the older 80 series bars):
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Yes, in a big enough accident, you would still bend the frame.
In a low speed accident with a "soft target", the ARB seems to hold up pretty well:
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