I think we have been talking past each other on this point. The 41psi is recommended for ALL weight, whether towing or not, up to the GAWR of your truck. Whether you have no extra weight or 600 lbs on your tongue, the recommended tire pressure is still 41psi.
What I recommended was that IF YOU NOTICE SIGNIFICANT TIRE BULGE WHILE TOWING, then you MAY increase the rear tire pressure to 45psi, but THERE IS NO REQUIREMENT TO DO SO.
There is indeed a chart for the relationship of tire pressure to Load Limit for your tires, that is the chart in the Tire and Rim Association's Yearbook from which I derived the 41psi recommendation. That 41psi covers all loads up to the limit of the truck. To put it another way, if you need more than 41psi, then you are exceeding the GAWR/GVWR of your truck - that's no bueno.
HTH