Thanks guys for the help... I love this board.

I don't do Moab like stuff but like I have stated on other threads we do expedition style trips all the time this week we are going to southern Mexico a 12+hr trip one way. I could have used the extra 2" of lift last night in northern Mexico it flooded and hailed we were out eating when all hades broke loose and the streets were wiped out in places made it home but on the way had to get through water in 2 places up to the door sills! Fun stuff! Anyway we are on highways a lot to get somewhere and then we get off of the beaten path and end up in all sorts of cool spots. Mostly mountain trails and lots and lots of dirt and gravel, some dried river beds etc.
My wife loves lifted trucks but after my last 6" lifted Diesel Excursion she is not a fan of the ride that often comes with them. And since my back is not great I like the factory ride it is great for long streches of open road.
So correct the following if you think I need to...
1. 33" Nitto TG 295/75/16's
2. So I think I will crank the front t-bars like everyone has said. TJM bumper won't happen for another year anyway.
3. Go with 863's
4. Get OME shocks since if I understand everyone Bilistein are not available for a 2" lift and stock length will not work???
5. Diff drop.
This should help get the rear off the bumpstops right? Because right now with my wife and 2 friends and all our gear this thing is like a pogo stick in the back...
Plus it will keep the ride comfy... what do you think...