Todd -
I use the Hellroaring system, so the controls are a bit different, but basically, I run an Odyssey P1200 deep cycle as my main, and run absolutely everything off of it, including all accessories. I have an Optima Red Top starter as the second battery, and it is exclusively used as a backup starter in case I kill my Odyssey. Hellroaring allows you to isolate the batteries such that they both charge from the alternator, but only one draws down, unless you flip the switch to combine them (for example, if you need to jump-start yourself, or want more current for winching). In such a situation, the solid state controller also acts to limit battery-damaging in-rush current as the fresh battery discharges into the dead one. I really like these units, and it's features like this that make it more desirable than a solenoid system, for me.
In short, I run just the one battery and isolate the backup, in case I need a jump-start. But I can do this since all my electrics run off this one battery. If you have split the load (e.g. put the fridge and winch circuits on the backup Yellow Top and the rest of the vehicle electrics on the Red Top starter), then this won't be as workable for you. So this probably doesn't help in your situation, but maybe it gives you some configuration ideas to play with.