Siglo, I will answer your questions, but first I will say that if you don't have the knowledge to understand my diagram or slee's, then I would recommend that you not pursue installing a dual battery system until you obtain the knowledge to understand the what and how of designing and installing high amperage power circuits. I'm not being critical of you; nobody is born with this knowledge. But I don't think anybody should be blindly following advice regarding this work that somebody within unknown skills or knowledge has happened to post on the web, including what I have posted via my diagram. If you don't have the knowledge to verify what somebody is suggesting is correct, complete, and proper, then you will have no way to know that it will work for you and be safe. I have seen a number of dual battery systems posted on the web where what is pictured is unsafe, in ways that the installers may or may not be aware or appreciate.
I will likely go with the Blueseas solenoid based on its specs. They have two models. I will be using the non-automatic version. The automatic version has the concept of a primary and a secondary battery, which conflicts with my objective of enabling each battery to be fully redundent and either being capable of being the sole battery operating the entire electrical system.
The underhood winch enablement switch provides two principle benefits 1) when off and with truck locked it prevents anybody from operating the winch unless they are also willing to break into the truck and 2) provides the mechanism to enable automatically disabling the solenoid during winching. The solenoid needs to be disabled in order to winch off of only one battery when engine is running. Otherwise, with engine running, with the battery select switch to either battery, each battery would still be providing winch current, with half going through the solenoid. In my scheme the winch enablement switch is totally optional. The solenoid can be manually disabled by the "parallel charging control switch" in my diagram.
I expect that I will be using one of the Blueseas "powerposts" for handling the power distribution. It is compact and I expect will handle the connections I will need, which is one cable from battery switch, one cable from winch switch, and the existing factory cables going to the factory battery.
http://www.bluesea.com/product.asp?Product_Id=30131&d_Id=7465&l1=7465&l2=.
Can't say when I will complete the install, I pursue the work from time to time as it floats to the top of my list of entertaining diversions. The vast majority of the effort is the time required to 1) select the appropriate components based on desired features and the need to be able to support the power draw of the winch (400 amps max) and 2) determine how and where to mount all the bits to fit underhood and be positioned where the risk of wire chafing and short circuits will be minimized. I will probably spend less the 20% of the total time actually installing wiring and components. The conceptual work of designing and planning the layout will consume the majority of the time spent on this project. I probably have already spent more time playing with Visio to do the diagram than I will spend installing the wiring.