I've never used that type of WDH so I can't really compare to what I've used. The one I have is like this:Thanks for the great imo @Oakleyguy and yes I have this WDH pictured below.
Totally agree that towing heavy with any midsize SUV isn’t ideal, but I do still feel that Toyota completely phoned it in here.
Sequoia is not a fit for me, unfortunately, as I wheel on the ragged edge of capability. The LX is fantastic in that regard.
The engine kicks on when it feels like it, depending on conditions, so hooking up the trailer is a roll of the dice as to whether ICE is running.
I’m going to try: -Ball closer to the hitch receiver, -Tires 5psi over OEM (so 38 psi). -Crank WDH a little higher.
Those changes alone will make it tolerable, but they won’t fix the absence of cruise control, any tow/haul transmission mapping (ironically when you’re in cruise without a trailer the transmission reacts proactively to maintain speed).
Toyota really needs a Sequoia TrailHunter with 35s and the 3" lift. Toyota should be putting AHC in the Sequoia also as an option. I think it would make it much more popular. GM offers its version (not as good as AHC, but it does do variable height and damping ) in multiple trims of the Tahoe around $70k. Toyota should seriously consider it.
It's pretty frustrating that the transmission software isn't ready for towing. There's no reason for it not to be ready to go for it in a vehicle with nearly 10k lb tow rating.
Tire pressure will probably help some. I would consider maxing them out at 44psi or whatever it is on your tires. I don't think it would hurt anything and might firm up a bit. With my 4Runner I would usually bump up to either max psi on the XL rated tires or about 60psi on E rated ones. I'm not sure it made a huge difference, but it's necessary for higher load carrying anyway. The combo of airbags and KDSS really worked well for chassis dynamics, but power was severely lacking. The LX should be a lot better.
Toyota always does weird stuff. In my Tundra that's otherwise pretty good towing - the cruise control will turn off if it downshifts. The FSM says to tow in S4 (it's the old 6 speed AT). So, towing in 4th is fine with heavy trailers - but it also will drop cruise control automatically if it ever downshifts to 3rd. So, basically anytime you hit a hill it just drops cruise control. I have no idea why. It's particularly annoying when towing somewhere with a lot of hills and lower speeds. On a 55mph or even worse a 45mph road in the hills it often needs to drop down to 3rd get just because you're going slow and it needs the power up the hills and it'll constantly drop the cruise and once it shift back to 4th it'll re-engage cruise and try to speed up again. Makes no sense. How did Toyota every let that pass out of the design phase?