As a former Mass. person myself, acknowledging you have a problem is the first step! I think part of it is just losing the idea that it will continue to look perfect. Trying to cut it, grind it, fill it, sand it, paint it etc, all with a hope of getting it to look like there never was rust is a waste of energy. I would focus all the attention to grinding it down to bare metal and then sealing it up well. In the places/parts that it is not really feasible to grind to smooth metal, there are a number of "rust converters" out there that can be worth it. Locktite has a "Navy Jelly" as well, in addition to a POR-15 product. Grind as much a you can, treat the rest, and then protect it again with a layer of paint or some sealant. It may look patchy, but at least you are slowing the spread.