thanks for the response, i got na ew switch as well but no luck , could you tell me where is the ground wire the in bumper or anywhere else for the fog lightI did! It was the switch, which turns out to be really simple to replace: 3 screws and a few clips is all it takes to get into the steering column. Then it's another couple of screws and an electrical connector to remove the switch. About 5 minutes of effort. Took the old switch out, it tested as bad. Spent about $40 on a used replacement on eBay (PN 84140-33020). Another 5 minutes to install and put everything back together. Way easier than replacing the relay AND it fixed the problem.
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