well, haven't built my tongue extension yet but I did get a couple of extensions, the better one with a solid shank. I think that's really desirable. If not that, at least 1/4" thickness.
I also did put some beads on some of my gizmos, extensions, pintle hooks and the like to try and get rid of the slop, as per Brian's suggestion. That was a great idea.
Well, it worked pretty well. Slop is much reduced. I put beads on 3 sides. Was pretty tedious actually, between the welding, grinding, checking, regrinding, rechecking etc. I took my sweet time to get as little slop as possible. Not perfect but much better.
Unfortunately, the downside is that I custom fit it all to the 80 and the gizmos won't fit the 100 receiver any more. I could grind more but then of course there'll be more slop in the 80. Not fitting the 100 is an issue. But for now at least, all is good.