Dude,
Work with me here... I'm still not clear on exactly which bolt you're talking about.
"One of the center bolts for the intake/exhaust manifold"
There are 3 bolts that hold the two manifolds together. In the middle where they mate up.
There are the many (like 8 or so) studs that hold the manifolds to the head.
"Well is the second bolt or stud. The first one is like what... a 14mm i think.. the second one is something like a 17mm."
Are you talking about the size wrench that fits on the bolt (nut)? Sounds kinda like you're talking manifold studs on a 2F. And they're supposed to be studs, not bolts.
If we're talking manifold studs, go to the dealer. Lowes might have them, right next to the reverse-thread smog pump pulley nut. Manifold studs are special, they got a long end and a short end and a shoulder in between. Get the matching washers and nuts too. This is a place where, IMNSHO, OEM is best.