I am not a battery expert by any means, but here's my $0.02.
The important thing about batteries is that they are both equally functional, I think. By that I mean that you want two new batteries not one old one and a new one. This is because if one is old and cannot reach max charge capacity, or self-discharges quickly, it will constantly be draining the good one when the car is off. Basically, my understanding is that they'll always be sort of fighting each other. A bit like replacing only 1 of the 4 batteries in your flashlight or whatever.
CCA is a very specific measure using a
very specific test with insanely high amp loads. I don't see having these two numbers match on the two batteries being relevant to overall battery longevity, personally. I believe that CCA has a lot to do with battery construction (plate thickness, spacing, etc.). Reserve Capacity is probably more interesting as that indirectly relates to how long it would take a battery to charge, and a differential in charging times between the batteries could lead to them having different voltages when the car is turned off and then "fighting" as described above.
I'm 2.5 years into running 27M and 31 Odysseys with wildly different CCAs & Reserve Capacity because I wanted to max capacity: not having my batteries die in the middle of nowhere while running my fridge was WAY more important to me than having them last a long time. Worth noting: This is about as much life as I've managed to get out of two different sets of normal lead acid batteries which did match. These Odyssey's still seem great (it would be interesting to measure actual capacity now, is there a charger that can do this for car batteries?). In fact, my alternator has been going out for months and just died on a 2-hour drive home up the Burr Trail from Lake Powell and these topped off quite quickly once on the charger at home.
FWIW, I had a master toyota tech buddy tell me that vibration is the #1 killer of batteries in a properly maintained system, I guess it's really hard on the plates?