Interesting points and correct IMO. If either car crumples, both drivers benefit because it reduces the peak Gs of the impact.
I didn't bring this up earlier but there seems to be sustained interest. As the forces/impact speed increase, the advantage increasingly accrues to the 'harder' vehicle. In higher speed devastating impacts, a vehicle like the 80 will cause disproportionately more and more damage to a softer vehicle as that vehicle runs out of crush space and the cabin begins to deform. Modern vehicles are incredibly good at absorbing energy and maintaining cabin space. And even when the crush space is essentially used up, if there's more coming the airbags will mitigate injury. But eventually, if a partly deformed LandCruiser frame and engine block is still coming your way, you have to pay the piper. At that point, the vehicle would do well to get spun out of the way, but the Cruiser is on the taller end of things, which means it will tend to be atop the other vehicle and prevent that. This same point also means the Cruiser is about to get rolled - hard - which is frequently the outcome of headlight to headlight offsets with SUVs vs smaller cars. Clearly the danger is greater in the crushed car than the flipped Cruiser under most circumstances, though.
My brother's 80 hit showed the advantage of a heavy bar like the ARB keeping the frame tips tied and working together under circumstances that would have normally caused them to be bent separately. The stock bumper is no more than a piece of formed thick sheetmetal and will not help control the front frames in a really severe hit. It is why both our 80s now have ARBs, though I also like the protection against mild hits and deer as well.
I was on a search sometime in the last year or so, and yakking with a couple Sheriff's Deputies about stuff when I overheard one say his wife wanted to sell their smaller car and replace it with a pickup. Another deputy responded that she must want to move up the 'lugnut scale'. I couldn't resist, so I asked what that meant and they were surprised I'd never heard about the lugnut scale. Over the years of responding to motor vehicle accidents, they'd realized that usually the larger vehicle drivers win, and having more lugnuts was another way of saying that. 3/4 ton pickups with 8 lugs do better against lighter pickups with 6 lugs, semis have 10 or more lugnuts, etc. Was kinda funny, but probably a pretty statistically valid observation.
Above all this yakking though, the #1 thing you can do to keep yourself safe is to buckle your seatbelt and develop a habit of subconsciously and frequently pulling the slack out of it. Especially you guys with pre-95 80 Series trucks without airbags. For 19 years, my license plate frames have read "Buckle Up" (compliments of Toyota USA).
DougM