ok - still lurking on this board but I'll chime in what I know - take this from someone who is also coming from the POV of not growing up here -- Hickory pretty much has anything you are looking for shopping wise, and like 1974fj said -- less than an hour to Charlotte, about an hour to Boone. Schools as for children? I really don't know as I don't have kids -- there are both public and private schools though, and my extended family has their kids in private school presently. Cost of living compared to what -- compared to the Northeast it is cheaper, but mostly in real estate, taxes, and insurance. Food, clothing seems to be the same. Recreation there is lake hickory, and lake norman. I think it depends on what part of Hickory you are looking to live in -- from what I've seen, and I could be wrong, there are some sketchy areas (not Philly sketchy, but sketchy nonetheless). But Conover is a nice place to live which is right next to it. Any specific questions areas I can try and help you with -- my family lives here (and have lived here their whole life) and could probably fill in any holes.... hth.