UPDATE2:
The mechanic called me first thing in the morning at work and apologized and said that the job had in fact been done wrong that he would completely disassemble the front axle assembly, clean it out thoroughly, and re-do the job correctly at no cost to me. (I'm sure he was also concerned about the potential liability of a botched repair effecting the brakes, although he didn't mention that.) He said that his contact at the Toyota dealer had told him to use 90W in the diffs and knuckle and that his assistant did the actual work.
I figured I'd give him a chance to make things right and dropped it off yesterday morning. I picked it up yesterday evening and everything looks fine - no more ABS issues, no leakage from the knuckles, and the mess from the leaking diff oil all cleaned up.
I'll plan to take a look in there soon to make sure everything was done properly this time. But based on the description of what he did second-time-around and the external appearance I think there is a good chance the job was done right this time.
The original ABS issues may be related to the fact that, being submerged in diff oil, the magnet sensors picked up any metal floating around in the knuckle.
Anyway, there is still a whining on acceleration @> 40 mph which I had hoped the birfield repack would eliminate. I have two new tires on order to match the rears (new Yokohama Golandar HTS's - not the best but will be ok for now due to $$$ considerations) and I'll get an alignment done when they arrive (hopefully this weekend). Once all of that is done, I'll replace the transfer case oil and rear diff oil with Mobil 1 and see about any noises once all that is done. Hopefully, it's just tire noise, but doubtful since it's only under acceleration.
Anyway, thanks everyone for all the help in getting this figured out.