The side wings are 1/4", the main shell is 3/16". Due to the angles, some, most of the beveling is done.
As for grinding, metal removal, it's all about HP and rock size/quality. The 4" mini grinders are great for detail/finish work, for big metal removal, the are painfully slow. I get some 4 grit rock that rips the stuff off, with enough HP, it is even quick. The bigger, higher HP the grinder, the better.
IIRC, Rob's and mine was a two weekend deal, only Saturdays? On the first day we had mine done, except the side tubes and some trim that I added. Rob's had the main shells welded. The second weekend we did the hitch and spindle/carrier on Rob's and the finish work on mine. If paint is in the plan, likely at least a full day to clean, sand, primer and paint.
The newer kits fit better, ours were the first ever kits. Before then, the rig had to be delivered to grass valley and the bumper custom made on the rig. Our group buy order, was the start of the "kit". Some holes (like for the receiver, recovery points) were off on ours. Also Rob's is a single swing, so no plan, parts, anything for a latch, it had to be designed, made on the fly. Ours required more fitting, grinding, so took longer to build.
If you go to Luke's site and click on the kit instructions, it links back here, because they were written for us. Some of us have a word doc, that has more hints, details.
https://forum.ih8mud.com/az-copper-state-cruisers/142286-4x4labs-rear-bumper-build.html
The build thread.
https://forum.ih8mud.com/az-copper-state-cruisers/139729-4x4-labs-diy-rear-bumper.html