You are not going to kill your springs if you build them right. Mine felxes very well using stock springs and wheels and flexes as well as a 55 SOA can... My rig also weight about 5300 lbs empty so heavy.. Here is the best info I have about spring packs... I have put a lot of thought into this. I personally would not buy OME just to spring it over, I would build a stock pack, even if it was hammered. But that is just my $.02...
Here is the best info I have about leafs and spring packs for SOA rigs. I think a wagon is a different story because they are heavier but you can kill a set of springs SOA very quickly in a wagon from experience. I imagine wheeling hard SOA with big tires on a 40 has the same effect.
Go to post 40 and keep reading. It is covered in depth. I run 2 add a leafs in the rear and one up front.
http://www.pirate4x4.com/forum/showthread.php?t=410514&page=2