Pads are important, but good rotors are the first line of defense against overheated pads.
Brakes translate kinetic energy to heat. The more mass a rotor has, the lower the peak temperature that is reached. Essentially the rotor acts as the brake system heat sink. Everytime a rotor is cut, it looses mass, and will inevitably reach a higher peak temperature for an equivalent stopping event. So it's a slippery slope to prolong a rotors life. It will fix the immediate problem of run-out or uneven pad transfer, but will likely result in future issues do to more extreme heat cycling. Drilling and slotting, besides causing stress points, also reduce mass, resulting in higher peak temps.
The next thing that a rotor must do is shed heat. Not necessarily for a single stopping event, but for subsequent stopping events. Internal vain design makes the most difference here. Slotting and cross drilled features do very little.
Pad selection is an exercise in compromises. Yes, you can get higher MOT (maximum operating temperature) pads, but will they have the nice cold bite/friction qualities that a typical street car needs? Then there are the tradeoffs for longevity/dusting/sqeaking/abrasivness/etc. OEM pads typically strike a pretty darn good balance.
So if you want great brake performance, focus on the rotors. Quality and mass!