Yes, they are designed to work together but the ARB mini, which is specifically for Air Lockers uses a 70-100psi switch probably due to the limitation of the compressor itself. The ARB twin compressor uses 135-150psi switch.
I currently have 6 ARB air lockers, installed by three supposedly reputable installers. Two of them have internal leaks in the differential. And they are both front diffs.... which get activated less often than the rears. The only difference is the front air line is 6ft long and the rear air line is 16ft long.
Yes, the leaks you mentioned are the most common reasons for failure. But if you took the perfect install in a controlled environment, one locker subjected to 150psi over thousands of activation cycles and another at just 100psi, I'm sure the system at the lower pressure will last longer. The difference may or may not be significant but the OP's original question is "how can I reduce my chances of have air leak issues."