These are pages from the wiring harness repair manual (RM1022E), which lists all the connectors in use at the time of publication. Page E-34 lists the part number and associated specs. Page G-6 lists the M/F combinations. My guess is the male side isn't/never was available as a separate part, because Toyota specified the IAC with the connector. However, both Toyota and the IAC vendor got the pair from the same manufacturer, so...find the vendor and you'll likely find the connector. Same for the TPS.
@Onur would know who the OEM was.