side quest update: Alright its official! I have a intake valve thats bent on cylinder #1. I don't see any cracks in the head visually. and with a magnifying glass. I think I got lucky and the head gasket didn't seal properly and the valves were a separate issue. I pulled all the other intake valves to check and number 4 is suspect enough that I am going to replace it too. the other two valves seem un phased. and remember I was getting 160 psi on 2,3,4.
Tomorrow afternoon I am going to go over the head with a fine tooth comb. Its the best I got without having a machine shop close by. The head was machined down. and in-fact the old head gasket came off so clean I feel like the torque specs were too light from the haynes manual I have. I am going to do some research to find those specs. Maybe I can find a pdf of the FSM for the 1.9 isuzu g200 engine.