That seems too hot.
The ECT is right on the exit side of the engine leading into the thermostat. If you are staring into the engine bay from the front of the vehicle, and locate the radiator hose on the passenger side, you will see an aluminum housing with a neck that goes into the top of the hose. In that assemble is the thermostat, and between the hot engine and the thermostat is the sensor stuck into the top side of the housing.
Here's a pic from another thread:
I searched and could not find the answer to this, so here is a picture of the location. Find where you put in the thermostat and follow the pipe straight back and the sensor is the first one you come to with the green top. You will need a 19mm deep socket, which is the type of socket you use to...
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Because of the location, the coolant temp at this spot is going to be virtually as hot as it possibly can get; which is why they stick it there (smart!).
That being said, even when worked really hard, the coolant should not be getting that hot. Not trying to be that guy and say "well mine doesn't do that" but it sounds like you do need a control group here for some results to compare it to. My LC just about religiously sits at 187-193. 187 is downhill in the winter, 193-195 maybe is holding high revs on a 100 degree day.
I'd take stock of what's been done on the vehicle and look at making sure you've got a good thermostat, fresh/correct coolant, and making sure you have a radiator with less than 200k miles in there is a good start. I find spraying evap coil cleaner in my radiator and then hosing it down with water removes a LOT of crap that I never would have thought was in there. It's at every hardware store in the HVAC section.
These are winter time temperatures and it should not be struggling at all to stay cool, especially not towing. It sounds like its able to stay at a normal temp when not pushed super hard, which I would hazard a guess means the thermostat is opening at the right temp.
It COULD be:
1. Thermostat is not opening fully when super hot.
2. Radiator isn't cooling efficiently; old, dirty, etc.
3. SNOW/ICE blocking airflow over radiator!
4. Not bled properly, air pocket forming in system potentially near water pump (losing syphon so its not moving enough coolant)?
5. Congestion somewhere?
6. Something is up with the coolant. I'd guess certain coolant transfers heat to certain metal surfaces better than they do to others but I'm no fluids engineer.
Here is a thread where common engine temps are discussed; lots of people logging results.
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