Anecdotes are anecdotes. I'm pretty sure
@Malleus can chime in here, but the whole myth about numerically lower gearsets being weaker is garbage. First, the cross section at the pinion splines is smaller than the area where the tooth engages. Secondly, since only one tooth pair is really carrying the load (it's not a bunch of teeth simultaneously, in spite of them looking as if they're in mesh) then all that really matters is the contact patch between the teeth under load. Thirdly, there are farrrr more variables at play for gearset life than ratio. You can get gearsets in 50:1 ratios that have "fewer teeth" that
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It may be more likely in your case that poorly heat treated or manufactured (or setup) gears are weaker than Toyota OEM, but I don't think you can conclude that there's somehting inherently weaker about lower gears.