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@Landcrsrgirl . Sorry to hear this on your first post. Looks like the car has been with you a long time and has served well. Not all is lost! You've come to the right place. There are reasonable options out there.
I don't know the extent of the overheating event. It's wholly possible that your son caught the issue in time. The car can loose a lot of coolant and steam, before truly overheating and distorting/destroying the motor. Was this at city speeds or on the freeway?
I would strongly suggest you not let them rebuild the engine if it requires opening up the motors head/headgasket and machining the deck. If it overheated to this degree (they might be lying if it happened on surface streets), then it's time to consider other options. While possible, I doubt it impacted the transmission.
Checkout this thread:
Here we go... Found what a good deal on a '08 Cruiser 2500mi away from me last December; less than 100K on the odometer, faded paint on hood, some interior wear and bumper rashes, nothing severe, price was less than 10K. Driven all the way home with no issues; until a week ago; while passing a...
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I would also encourage you to checkout car-parts.com. You can find complete whole motors ("engine") on that site from Tundras or Sequoia. You can be whole again for likely less than half of their quoted costs.