Looks like you found the right person to get the job done right. Yes, Dr. Coffee method.. he was in T4R 3rd gen forum and found the method!
Sorry, it is 47:55 mark on that video :
At 48:51: The axle has been inserted into the axle-housing and mounted with 2 bolts. Then they spin the axle to get the seal to ride on the retainer. To check the mating surface, they pulled the axle out to inspect. The smeared area on the shrpie mark indicates the seal is properly riding on the retainer.
You must install new Retainers especially the one near the bearing.
I think 80 series from 1996 got ABS so the shop should know how to properly set the ABS retainer to ride on the Oil Seal.
The Followings are for a 2000
Organised from HUB to 3rd member (All Toyota parts)
9031362001 Oil/dust seal near hub $ 5.75
9030185004 O-ring $2.22
9036948001 Bearing $84.30
9020848002 Washer Cornical $2.02
4242360040 Retainer for bearing $13.55 (DOUBLE CHECK THIS RETAINER: as the system shows two types of retainers. One retainer is for the bearing and the other for the ABS ring and OIL seal) Based on the sizes and my experience with the Toyota rear axles I think I have it correctly, but check with the dealer or email partsouq.com and they will let you know)
9052044038 Snap ring $1.32
4242360030 Retainer for ABS $7.42 (DOUBLE CHECK THIS RETAINER)
9031058002 Oil Seal $5.08
All are from Partsouq.com