It would help to have some pictures of what you have going on now. It would also help to know if you're going for a full desmog or a partial desmog. some people leave part of the system in place because they want the High Altitude Compensation. Some people don't need it or it's not working anyway so they delete it. Lets step back for a minute if you're getting so frustrated you're visibly shaken. What do you have in the engine bay right now? Show us some pictures and some more people will likely feel like chiming in. There is really no way to dumb it down any further than it's been dumbed down on this forum, to be honest. It was a complicated system that managed a complicated set of problems. For the most part, you don't need any of the vac lines other than the dizzy advance. Pretty much everything else can go if I remember correctly. I installed a holley sniper EFI system when I did my desmog so I deleted everything except the vac advance and a few vac lines to run a vac gauge in the truck.
It took me a while to figure this out, but when you're looking at the drawings of the vacuum system, the areas inside the valves and whatnot that are filled with solid black show the path of vacuum. If there is black, then it's sucking. If it's white, there is no vacuum applied to that part. This is necessary to understanding what the FSM is telling you about the system and how it operates. It almost reads like computer code... "if this - is true, then this- is also true, and this is false"... does that make sense? If you add 1 and 1 it equals 2. That's what the emissions book is telling you in those graphics and diagrams. If this valve is open and this valve is closed then vacuum should be present 'here'. If vac is not present 'here' and valve is open and valve is closed, then problem is likely 'there'.
If you don't understand how vacuum is created by the engine and why it's useful then I would start by trying to grasp that concept. As the engine explodes fuel and air, it sucks in oxygen for combustion while simultaneously expelling combusted waste gasses and particles out the exhaust. If we didn't have clean air going into the internals of the engine we wouldn't have any explosion. There must be air drawn into the mix. It's a cycle that happens as the engine turns over. It's constantly sucking more air. we can tap into that and use the physical sucking action to manipulate other physical devises that are handy in a vehicle. For instance, an automatic transmission runs on vacuum, or the old ones do anyhow. The harder the engine is working the harder it sucks. When it begins to suck a certain measurable unit (measured in inches) different devices in the vacuum circuit will engage. IE: at idle healthy engines at sea level will suck around 16-17 inches. Barometric pressure will affect this. Higher altitude has less oxygen and therefore will not produce the same amount of vacuum as sea level. This is what the high altitude compensation circuit is for. In Colorado I was pulling around 14 inches and in Florida I'm pulling around 18 inches at idle. When the engine revs it changes the amount of vacuum that is produced. The engineers take advantage of this and design their smog system to engage under different vacuum conditions. If vacuum is lost at a valve it will open allowing vacuum to be drawn from another location allowing exhaust gasses to be recycled back into the engine to be combusted a second time. This is the very basics of how the smog system works on the 2F engine. All that spaghetti of vac lines is there to recycle exhaust gasses to be burned again in order to clean the air coming from the exhaust. Doing this sacrifices some power and performance from the engine. It's not necessary to make the engine run.
There are functions on the carburator that require vacuum. IE the distributor advance. As the engine revs up the vacuum pulls a diaphragm inside the distributor which in turn rotates the distrubutor to adjust the ignition timing. When the throttle plate in the carb is wide open it should be engaging the secondary which increases the fuel mix to compensate for the higher RPMs. It's actually a brilliant solution to a complicated problem.
My suggestion would be to make sure the vacuum advance is hooked up correctly to the carb. Then make sure you have no open vacuum ports anywhere. Get the engine running with bare minimum vacuum accessories and then add what you need from there. Take it one bite at a time. Each system plays off of the other, so try to understand the very basics and get that under control and go from there. Good luck. Were here to help!
Edit: Also, if you didn't have your engine set at top dead center when you installed the distributor then you will always have trouble getting it to idle properly. very very first thing would be verify the dizzy is installed properly and that the vac advance diaphragm is in working order. If you had JimC rebuild and set your carb for a desmog then I would seriously consider having him go through your distributor as well. The two go hand in hand and having them both in perfect working order is going to make things go so much more smooth for you. Especially if you just had the whole engine rebuilt with an upgraded RV cam. Defiantly get that dizzy reworked if you haven't already.