"Performance" is relative....a high-reving naturally aspirated gasoline v8 may provide the "performance" you seek, while a low-end torque-producing diesel inline 6 or v8 may provide the "performance" someone else seeks.
The new crop of diesels being put in midsized and 1/2 ton trucks (v6's and inline 4's) are more than adequate for the type of "work" that most owners will be doing with those trucks and they provide better efficiency while performing that work. The 4.5l v8 is certainly a workhorse and can do anything the 5.7l iForce v8 can do, albeit at a marginally slower pace. All of them get up to highway speeds just fine. So this notion that North Americans just won't be able to abide by the lack of "performance" associated with these diesels is a misguided one.
EV's are a marketing exercise until the range, recharge time and cold weather issues are worked out...they provide good efficiency, assuming they work and can actually get you from point A to point B in a reasonable amount of time.
Happy to discuss in more detail. In Austraila, there's both 5.7L and 4.5L TT drivetrains fitted to the LX, that coexist in the market. To your point, the diesel's an option there because of the demand. They introduced it after, because the people wanted it, probably for all the good reasons you state.
I stay with my point about performance and weight.
Performance - the diesel is upwards of 2 seconds slower 0-60, with publications putting it into the mid-high 8 second range. This is where diesel torque should shine because of the need to get off the line. Compared to mid 7 second range with the gasser. The diesel performance is solid for a 6000lb beast, but the gassers is steller. That's unladen. Laden would show increasing larger deltas. I don't drive day in day out flooring the car, but I do need perfomance when towing, on grade, and at elevation. On the open road at speed, passing power also matters, and where HP is the name of the game. The 5.7L having 125HP on the diesel is dramatic. It's the difference of passing confidently, to not passing at all. This would be frustrating, and efficiency be dammed, because I didn't spend bucko bucks to have the performance similar to that of an economy car. That might not be fair, but I'm not just looking for adequate work levels of performance. I want indulgent performance.
Weight - The LX450d had to be spec'd without the 3rd row, without sun-roof, with many other lower levels of options. They also removed the ability to spec an aux tank to keep within chassis GVM, resulting in range no better than the 5.7L gasser with aux tank fitted. Much of the diesel drivetrain weight is concentrated in the nose, which dampens cornering feel and ability.
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1) Australia has much more diesel availability and is much cheaper than gas. Cheaper with more efficiency makes great fiscal reason - for Australia. The US is much different with diesel often priced the same or higher than premium fuel. In the US, diesel is not as widely available whereas gas is everywhere (opposite of AUS). Where it is available is often a single token pump. Perhaps a line to said single pump, behind a 50 gallon HD work truck. When I tow, I actually like the ability to ingress and egress stations with flexibility, and the only way to have that is with the many more gasoline pumps. More remote places also turn over gasoline better, keeping that supply from being stale. Costco only sells gasoline (as far as I've seen). Diesel pump smells with dirty pump/pump handles. Nevermind filling DEF, with its forced limp mode if I run out (damn domestic regulations!).
2) NVH - diesel may be more tractable and relaxed in off the line acceleration. That shouldn't be mistaken for better NVH. It's the 5.7L that has more smoothness and quiet. Modern diesels are better in regard to clatter but that's what diesels do. A diesel under load at full stink, which it will be in more often with its lower outputs, is going to be more coarse and less refined than the 5.7L.
I think it's important to remember that diesel HP is no different than gasser, or even EV produced HP. It's an objective measurement of output. The other important thing is that it's really about wheel torque, for which there is gearing. HP cannot be geared up.
5.7L gasser - 383 HP, 403 TQ
4.5L TT diesel - 268, HP 480 TQ (without USDM emissions)
Difference -115HP, +77TQ
Different topic, but I'll say you're absolutely wrong about EVs. My wife is on her second one. It's steller in range, recharge time (always full starting day), superchargers work very well, and cold is not an issue. I often negotiate to take her EV on longer road business trips over my LX, much to her dismay. It's such a game changer that I'm seriously considering the Cybertruck to replace my LX. Torque monster. Performance.
Diesels time has come and gone.