I've decided to go a completely different route, for more info please see:
Bolt on turbo kit.
For anyone going the diy route please don't let this discourage you, I'm sure it would be possible for someone with more resources and time than myself to do an awesome build with these components. Really all that needs to be done is the intake and downpipe plumbing, which is where things got complicated for me. This is my dd and I had a small window of down time to do the entire install.
I'll be posting the turbo, manifold and wastegate on the classifieds for anyone interested in starting their own turbo build.
Things don't end here, I just got my manifolds and heat shields ceramic coated. Also, I'll be wiring up a wideband afr, boost gauge, intake temp, and oil temp gauges in preparation for the bolt on kit.