With the 8-speed, you don't want the 4.3. Too much gear is just as bad as too little gear. 3.9s are what you want.
What's important to understand is overall gearing. It's not just about the diff ratio. The 8-speed has so much internal gearing already that even with 3.9s and 37s, you'll have more gearing than ideal. Let alone 35s.
I'm just another guy with an opinion on the internet, but I can tell you that your 4x4 shop is giving you bad advice.
This thread might help better understand just how much more gearing 3.9s or 4.3s are.
EDIT: Expanding tables for 8-speed and 40s So I had a little time this morning to put together a chart combining transmission gearing of 6-speed vs 8-speed, diff ratios, and tire sizing into an overall gearing reference. Hoping this will be useful for those trying to understand how their...
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