Ok, for the record, here's where we got to today on Simon's truck:
Simon managed to get the "inner axle plate" pulled back into position. I hope it's in the correct position but I'm not sure. For sure we didn't pull on it with a suitable tool, so it's likely to fall back off if it's a press fit. Over the past few hours of Sunday night "family time", I was thinking of exactly what Christo suggests which is to drill in a hole and tap it (perhaps 2 - one on each side of the tube). This setup could be used as a sling as Dan points out (great idea).
Christo - please confirm that the inner axle plate needs to be pulled towards to birfield end of the tube in order to seat it.
Also is this inner seal puller a standard tool or a Toyota SST? Sounds like we're going need one.
Here's some other ideas I've been thinking on.
1) Leave the axle out and plug the end with a rag and get Simon's truck back on the road. Here's some questions on this approach:
a) With no CDL switch, is there an easy electrical mod to lock the center diff (sorry I know I should look this up somewhere)?
b) I've got a CDL switch for my 95 that's not installed yet, but for Simon's 93 is that a different switch?
c) Assuming that we get the CDL locked - Do we need to pull the short axle to get back on the road?
This at least get's Simon's truck back to his place and gives us time to resolve this properly.
2) I guess the easiest/best approach is to use the inner seal puller and pull it firmly into position and then be done with it. If that's not possible I'm thinking #3.
3) Destroy the plate and remove from the axle tube (not sure how hard but sounds difficult without pulling the diff). Then drill and tap "helper" holes.
It's Simon's call as it's his truck.
Thanks for all your guys help today. This was a major hassle and it's great to have the support of Dan and others on this site.
Note to other newbies - don't let our experience deter you. Simon and I did my truck a month ago or so and it went without a hitch. I do recommend buying an extra axle tube seal and also inspecting the tube with a flashlight before putting the axle back it. As Doug suggests don't slide the axle on this inner plate without some support of your hand.
Stay tuned, this isn't over yet.
R