@jfnall - back to your original question about which relay is the wiper control, the answer is "none of the above."
The location changed from on the relay block on the driver firewall to a bracket just above the accelerator pedal
in 4/85 (11/84 for BJ60's). With the location change, the part number changed from 85940-90A01 to 85940-90A04.
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The part number changed again for the FJ62 to 85940-90A09, but the location doesn't appear to have changed. This is the part shown above at Cruiserparts.net.
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The pins/plugs don't look like they're compatible between 90A04 and 90A09, but the good news is that the plug and wiring for 90A04 is accessible. It should be possible to adapt another relay if that's the only option.
@Steve83, the wiring diagram is in the very back of the 84-90 Body Chassis FSM.