I also like the angled design and it will help keep a deer off the hood or windshield. I built mine without any bull bar, but it would take a tall deer to make it into the grill with 35's and 4-5" of lift.
Definitely don't want to put the winch above the frame rails and block the radiator. These rigs have cooling issues already. Mounting it between the frame rails shouldn't affect the approach angle much if at all if done correctly.
I did a lot of reading before I built my front bumper and I would recommend adding a little steel to the bottom side of the winch plate for strength. If you are putting a 9K lbs winch on that bumper the 1/4" winch plate could be too light and could warp under a heavy pull and damage the plate and your winch. If I recall correctly Warn recommends 3/8" plate as a minimum for most of their bigger winches, but I could be wrong- just going off memory from a couple years ago. I built my winch mount plate out of 1/2" AR plate to be sure.

Realistically a couple strips of 1/4" x .5" or 1" flat bar running front to back near the winch mounting bolts will keep the plate from flexing under heavy load and it won't add much weight.
I agree with you- build it to our tastes not the tastes of others. After all, it is going on your rig.