IME you can go a bit past the original spot (depth of the pinion nut) if you don't go crazy ie: to take up any slack in the pinion bearing from wear assuming you have some miles on the original gears/bearings/diff set-up.
Short story: I did this when I replaced my rear diff pinion seal and and pinion flange a couple of years ago and went past the original nut position without major drama. I did something similar with a front diff pinion seal replacement over 10 years ago, no issues.
Long story: The thinking is that the original crush sleeve takes a lot of torque (ft lbs) to crush it further so if you're using a torque wrench and don't go anywhere near the original spec needed to crush the sleeve further it shouldn't cause a major issue. IIRC I went to more than 50 ft lbs when I tightened up a new pinion nut (the diff already had ~240,000 miles on it), some people go much higher without problems. As I already had the axle shafts out (for brake/wheel bearing service) I checked the starting rotational torque of the pinion gear/diff using a dial indicator torque wrench on the tightened pinion nut and the numbers I got were within spec for used bearings by the FSM method.
Point is IMHO that the process above did not appear to change preload dramatically by tightening down the pinion nut to less than (ft lbs) where the orignal crush sleeve was set (crushed) when the diff was built at the factory.
Once the rear axle was all together and the truck was back on the road there was a (new) slight whine from the gears, best guess is by taking the slack out of the pinion bearing (preload) the pinion and ring gear teeth were not meshing exactly where they were before due to wear. But also I did not tighten up the carrier bearings ie: so the pinion is a tad tighter than before, carrier bearings slightly loose from normal wear, causing the pinion gear and ring gear teeth to not mesh exactly as they had been running together.
That slight whine has quieted down over the last ~20,000 miles, likely due to the gears settling in to a new pattern IMO. I considered also tightening up the carrier bearings slighty but didn't have a fixture to hold the diff so went with what I had. I ran that idea by ZUK who said you can wing it by tightening both sides slightly but equally (carrier bearings) with an open LC Diff to take up for wear. I didn't have a holding fixture for the differential carrier so went with what I had and buttoned it back up without touching the carrier bearing preload.
Disclaimer: I'm not a mechanic and none of this is exactly "by the book" but IME it worked, so far at least.