Interesting, thank you. I have unfortunately heard of many failures occurring with Bilsteins, specifically the 5100. I am glad that they work well for you though - perhaps it is just a matter of them being an incredibly common replacement for OEM hardware -> more users, more failures. Who knows
A lot of my friends run 5100's and I've never heard of any failures or any other Bilstein's for that matter. In fact Lexus offers a lift kit for the 460 and it uses the 5100's.
GX Bilstein Lift Kit Shocks and Struts They wouldn't use them if they had a high failure rate, I wouldn't rule them out.
My 13 Tacoma Baja T|X came from the factory with 6112's on the front and 1.5" of lift. 10 years and 90K miles later they were still fine. Leaf packs on the rear not so much as is common and replaced them with Old Man Emu medium packs.
As someone that spent 20 years working with propulsion machinery on ships I feel if you have to rebuild a shock it is because of a failure. No other way to put it, it failed to do its job and I want them to go closer to 100K+ then replacement is fine. I prefer to not have failures of any type, just because you can rebuild doesn't mean I want to HAVE to. For the last 30 years have been building highly available computer systems in the medical field where failure is not an option so that may be a bit more ingrained in me than most.
Suspensions are a compromise how many days do you spend off road? How fast on those washboards and potholes? If on switchbacks where you can't go over 30 mph then it is different than 50+ mph where a tighter suspension smooths the rough ride out. But is rougher in slower situations.
My 19 Lux factory suspension is the best riding of any vehicle that I've ever owned and all I've owned since the 70's is 4x4's. I tow 2.5K pounds regularly and carried half a ton of lead shot in the back for shotgun shell reloading for 100 miles with no problems. And spend 6 weeks off road in the Sunset Country of Canada and the North Shore of Lake Superior on pretty rough 2 tracks each Fall. It is perfect for me, for now. But at ~100K miles I expect that I will be looking at suspension options same as you. To replace the factory suspension is crazy expensive and will have to see what is available when I get to that point. But if I don't stay with factory it will be along the lines of this and Bilstein's.
I'm running 265/70r17 AT3W's on TRD Pro wheels with stock suspension. Went with a straight line cut on the front personal preference but it needed to be done either way.
Wouldn't change a thing. Well except for that stupid rear door that should lift up instead LOL. Especially when towing, it is a PITA.